What turns a good love story into one I never want to end.

I’ve read a lot of romance over the years.

Historical. Small-town. Billionaires. Romantic suspense. Aliens. Fantasy. Royals. Romantic comedies. If there’s a great love story at the center of it, I’m willing to follow it just about anywhere.

And somewhere along the way, I realized that I don’t actually have one favorite romance genre or trope.

I have a favorite feeling.

It’s that moment when I stop thinking about the fact that I’m reading a book and start feeling like I’ve stepped inside it. I care about the couple. I know their friends. I have opinions about their families. Maybe even picked my favorite restaurant in their fictional town. And when the book ends, I’m genuinely a little annoyed and a lot disappointed that it’s over.

Those are the romances I recommend again and again.

And while they may look wildly different on the surface — Things We Never Got Over certainly doesn’t have much in common with Choosing Theo or A Kingdom of Dreams — I’ve realized that most of my favorite romances share a handful of ingredients.

So, if I could take apart my perfect romance novel and see exactly what makes it work, this is what I’d find.

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First, Make It Easy for Me to Read

Before I can fall in love with the characters, laugh at the banter, or get swept up in the chemistry, I have to actually want to keep reading.

That sounds obvious, but with more romance novels available than I could possibly read in a lifetime, I’ve become pretty selective about how I spend my time.

I want dialogue that sounds like the way real people actually talk. I want conversations to flow naturally rather than feeling stiff, overly formal, or like they’re there just to explain something to the reader.

I also don’t want to fight my way through the prose.

I love enough description to help me picture the room, the town, the dress, or the ridiculously attractive man who just walked through the door. But I don’t need three paragraphs describing the curtains. Give me enough to put me in the scene, then let the characters take over.

And errors matter. One typo isn’t going to send me running, but frequent spelling mistakes, grammatical errors, awkward sentences, or continuity problems pull me out of the story. Once I start noticing the writing instead of experiencing the story, it’s hard for me to get lost in the book again.

There are simply too many great romances out there for reading to feel like work.

My perfect romance doesn’t need elaborate prose. It needs writing that disappears so completely that I forget I’m reading at all.

Then Give Me Chemistry I Can Actually Feel

Once the writing has pulled me into the story, this comes next.

If I don’t believe in the couple, nothing else matters.

I can forgive a lot in a romance novel if I believe in the couple. But if I don’t feel the chemistry between them, no amount of spice, clever plotting, or perfect tropes can save the story for me.

And chemistry doesn’t necessarily mean instant attraction.

Sometimes it’s Gideon and Eva in the Crossfire series, where the attraction practically leaps off the page from the beginning.

Sometimes it’s Royce and Jennifer in A Kingdom of Dreams, where hostility gradually gives way to respect, understanding, and something much deeper.

And sometimes it’s Knox and Naomi in Things We Never Got Over, where half the fun is watching a man who absolutely does not want a relationship behave increasingly like a man very much in a relationship.

They’re completely different romances, but I believe every one of those couples belongs together.

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Make Me Laugh

I don’t need every romance to be a romantic comedy.

But give me great banter and I’m already halfway in love.

Humor makes characters feel real to me. Couples tease each other. Families embarrass each other. Friends say inappropriate things at exactly the wrong moment. Sometimes life is ridiculous.

Lucy Score is particularly good at this.

The Riley Thorn series may be one of the best examples because Riley and Nick’s romance exists in the middle of absolute chaos. Psychics, murder investigations, elderly roommates, family members, neighbors — something is always happening.

And yet the humor doesn’t make the emotional moments matter less.

It makes them matter more because I’ve become attached to these people.

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Give Me Somewhere I Want to Stay

Setting matters to me far more than I once realized.

I don’t just want a backdrop.

I want a world.

Give me the coffee shop everyone visits. Give me the local bar where half the town inevitably ends up on Friday night. Give me festivals and traditions and eccentric neighbors who know entirely too much about everyone else’s business.

This is one reason small-town romance works so well for me.

Bootleg Springs. Knockemout. Blue Moon.

I don’t simply remember the couples from those books. I remember their towns.

But this isn’t exclusive to small-town romance. Ruby Dixon can drop me into an entirely different world in Bound to the Battle God, and Victoria Aveline can send me to another planet in Choosing Theo.

The location doesn’t have to be somewhere I’d literally want to live.

It just has to become somewhere I don’t want to leave.

Please Give Me Side Characters I Care About

This goes hand-in-hand with fictional worlds.

I love a great central romance, but some of my favorite books wouldn’t be nearly as memorable without the people surrounding the couple.

I want meddling siblings.

Best friends.

Neighbors.

Found family.

The character who walks onto the page for five minutes and somehow makes me desperately hope the author gives them their own book.

It’s one reason I love interconnected series so much. I meet someone as a side character in one book and then get ridiculously excited when I realize they’re going to be the main character in the next.

By the time I’ve read several books, I’m no longer returning just for another romance.

I’m going back to see everyone.

And that’s when a fictional world starts feeling real.

Give Me a Heroine Worth Rooting For

I love strong heroines, but I think “strong female character” has become shorthand for a very particular kind of woman.

She doesn’t have to be physically tough.

She doesn’t have to be sarcastic.

She doesn’t have to prove she can do absolutely everything without help.

For me, a strong heroine is a woman who feels like a complete person before the hero ever walks onto the page.

Jennifer in A Kingdom of Dreams has a completely different kind of strength than Faith in Bound to the Battle God. Naomi in Things We Never Got Over isn’t Riley Thorn. Jaine in Mr. Perfect isn’t Mia in The Krinar Chronicles.

That’s what I like.

I want her to have opinions, flaws, relationships, fears, goals and a personality of her own.

I want to understand why he falls in love with her.

And Yes, I Love a Protective Hero

Okay, I definitely have a type here.

Give me the man who sees something threatening the woman he loves and immediately thinks:

Absolutely not.

Knox. Gideon. Theo. Royce. Korum. Nick.

I’m here for it.

But there’s an important distinction between protective and controlling.

The heroes I love don’t protect their heroines because they believe women are incapable of taking care of themselves. In fact, they’re usually painfully aware that the woman they’re in love with is perfectly capable of charging straight into danger without them.

They want to stand beside her anyway.

I want the hero who respects her strength — and would still tear the world apart to keep her safe.

Apparently that’s my weakness.

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Make Them Earn the Happily Ever After

I read romance because I want the happily ever after.

That’s not a spoiler to me.

That’s the promise.

What I don’t want is for the ending to feel easy simply because the genre requires one.

I want the characters to grow.

I want them to confront whatever has kept them from being able to build a healthy relationship.

Sometimes that happens over one book.

And sometimes — like Gideon and Eva in Crossfire, Mia and Korum in The Krinar Chronicles, or Alexander and Clara in The Royals Saga — I get to follow the couple through multiple books.

I particularly love that.

Falling in love is wonderful.

But sometimes I want to see what happens afterward.

Show me how they learn to be together. Show me the mistakes. Show me them choosing each other again.

That’s often where the really good stuff is.

Give Me Steam — But Give It a Reason to Be There

Yes, I like my romance with some heat.

But here’s the thing:

Steam isn’t chemistry.

I’ve read extremely steamy books that I’ve forgotten almost immediately, and I’ve read a single kiss that had more tension than entire chapters of explicit scenes.

The difference is emotional investment.

Once I care about the characters and believe in their attraction, the steam becomes part of their relationship rather than something happening simply because I’m reading a romance novel.

So yes, bring on the spice.

Just make me care who’s in the bedroom first.

Give Me a Relationship I Actually Believe In

This may be the ingredient underneath all the others.

I don’t need a perfect relationship.

Frankly, perfect would probably be boring.

But I need to understand why these two people are better together than they are apart.

That’s what I love about Sam and Jaine in Mr. Perfect. They genuinely seem to like each other.

It’s what makes Riley and Nick so much fun.

It’s what keeps me invested in couples whose stories span multiple books.

The attraction gets them started.

The relationship is what makes me stay.

And Finally…Make Me Not Want to Leave

This is the ultimate test.

I finish the book.

I close my Kindle.

And I miss them.

Maybe I immediately buy the next book.

Maybe I search to see whether another book is coming.

Maybe I reread the series a year later just because I want to spend time there again.

Those are my five-star romances.

Not necessarily because they’re technically perfect.

Because they gave me the perfect reading experience.

They made me forget I was sitting on my couch reading a book.

For a few hours, I lived somewhere else.

And when it was over, I wanted to go back.

The Recipe for My Perfect Romance

So, apparently, if someone wanted to write a romance novel specifically for me, here’s the recipe:

Chemistry that makes me believe these two people couldn’t possibly belong with anyone else.
Humor and banter that make them feel real.
A fictional world I want to disappear into.
Side characters I start treating like actual people.
A heroine I genuinely like and respect.
A hero who respects her strength but still wants to protect her from absolutely everything.
Enough emotional growth to make the happily ever after feel earned.
Steam that grows out of genuine chemistry.
A relationship built on more than attraction.
And characters I miss when it’s over.

Bonus points for a small town, an interconnected series, an outrageous family, and a hero who falls very, very hard.

So basically, I don’t ask for much at all. 😂

Final Thoughts

I started thinking about this as the anatomy of my perfect romance novel, but somewhere along the way I realized that’s not quite what I was describing.

It’s the anatomy of my perfect reading experience.

I don’t care whether you take me to medieval Scotland, a quirky small town, Manhattan, another planet, or an entirely different universe.

Make me believe in the people.

Make me care about their world.

Make me laugh with them, worry about them, fall in love with them, and root ridiculously hard for them to figure everything out.

Then make it difficult for me to say goodbye.

That’s the romance I’ll still be recommending years later.

So now I’m curious: what’s the one ingredient a romance novel absolutely has to have for you?

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